Couples Therapy
Most couples don’t struggle because they don’t care about each other. They struggle because they get caught in patterns that are difficult to recognize—and even harder to change on their own.
Couples therapy can help you understand what’s happening between you, practice new ways of responding to one another, and build a stronger, more connected relationship.
In therapy, we’ll identify the patterns that keep you stuck as a couple and develop new ways of communicating, responding to one another, and navigating difficult moments.
The goal is to help you feel more connected, better understood, and more equipped to work through challenges together.
Our Approach to Couples Therapy
Active & Collaborative: We work together to understand your relationship patterns and identify opportunities for meaningful change.
Understand Relationship Patterns: Explore how your current relationship dynamics may contribute to recurring challenges, including how you communicate and respond to one another.
Adjust Your Perspective: Examine the stories you’ve developed about your relationship and your partner, and consider whether they reflect your current reality.
Build Understanding: Develop more helpful, accurate ways of understanding one another while deepening empathy for each other’s experiences and perspectives.
Practice New Skills: Learn and practice new ways to communicate, navigate difficult conversations, and respond to one another with greater understanding.
Questions We Often Hear
How do I know when couple’s therapy can help?
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It can be helpful to seek couples therapy if you recognize your relationship in any of these experiences:
Having the Same Arguments Repeatedly: Having the same arguments over and over without feeling like anything gets resolved.
Struggling to Communicate Effectively: Finding it difficult to discuss important issues without conversations turning into defensiveness, criticism, withdrawal, or conflict.
Feeling Disconnected From Each Other: Feeling distant from one another or more focused on managing daily life than enjoying your relationship.
Having Different Approaches to Parenting: Struggling to align your expectations and work together as a team.
Navigating Major Life Transitions: Adjusting to marriage or experiencing conflict and tension while planning a wedding.
Trying to Rebuild Trust: Working through infidelity or another significant rupture in your relationship.
Feeling Hurt or Resentful: Experiencing feelings of hurt, misunderstanding, resentment, or emotional distance.
Struggling to Discuss Difficult Topics: Finding it hard to talk about sensitive issues such as money, sex, family, boundaries, or major life decisions.
Wanting to Strengthen Your Relationship: Hoping to deepen your connection and improve your relationship, even when you're not in crisis.
Will you take sides?
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My role isn’t to determine who is right or wrong or to take one partner’s side. Instead, I’ll help you both understand the patterns that have developed in your relationship and how each of you contributes to them. At the same time, I’ll be honest about behaviors that may be harming the relationship and help each of you identify where change is needed. The goal is to create a space where both partners feel heard while working toward a stronger, more supportive relationship.
Do we each need to be in individual therapy to do couples therapy?
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You don't need to be in individual therapy to participate in couples therapy. Couples therapy focuses on the relationship and the patterns between you, and you can begin even if neither of you is currently seeing an individual therapist. If individual therapy could be helpful for one or both partners, we can talk about that as part of the process.